Asking questions is a superpower. It can open up conversations and build connections.
The problem is that asking a question is a risk. Asking a silly question might make you look bad. Asking a question makes you vulnerable. It’s an admission that there is something you don’t know.
I once heard a speaker say that she asks the first question at the end of a keynote presentation. I took this advice to heart and while at Uncubed NYC last year, I tried it. My hand shot up when they opened the floor for question. As I saw the microphone making its way towards me, I immediately felt doubt rush into my head.
Was this question dumb? Had the speaker already answered it and I just wasn’t paying attention? Everyone is going to know that my face is so red.
My voice was shaky and my question barely made it past a self-enforced wall of judgement. But it made it out and that’s what matters.
I asked a question. I had an avenue to talk to the speaker afterwards. I created a conversation starter for other attendees to talk to me. I put myself out into the world.
Moments like this help build question asking confidence.
Keep asking questions. Search for the right questions and the right moments to ask them. Eventually, someone is going to appreciate your questions in ways that you never imagined possible.
Zach — Thanks so much for sending this link to me. I’m humbled that my presentation helped inform this blog (even in part). That means a lot to me because my work and life mantra is to pay it forward for all of the people who helped me. Keep asking questions. By doing so, you may even earn a reputation for being inquisitive and willing to dig for more knowledge. Not a bad thing! Take care and keep in touch! Debbie