It seems the best way to get to know anyone is to spend a lot of time with them.
But the continuity matters.
Meeting someone for an hour, ten times is significantly different from meeting someone for ten hours straight. I might argue, that ten hours straight would lead to a much deeper relationship than ten times for an hour. (Unless that hour was facilitated or scaffolded in some way.)
Contiguous time matters when building friendships, relationships, familial bonds are connections to ideas.
But continuity is hard, time consuming and not in line with cultural norms. We operate in 30-60 minute blocks. It’s hard to give away three straight hours to a new person who you might not connect well with.
It has me thinking, how do we develop more infrastructure to spend more quality contiguous time together?