What role does that message play in the growth of young people?
I’ve seen several instances of people scolding teenagers for their lack of respect and professionalism. In a coded way saying, “you’re not good enough.”
Does that help? Does it really wake people up the way some think it does? Does it change their trajectory? Or does it break trust. Or is it pointing out something that the kids have already internalized and beaten themselves up about?
Even when things go awry, I’m conscious to not send the message that someone isn’t good enough. That’s not to say I don’t encourage progress, but the more motivating way to send the message is to say “you could do better.”